We’ve all been there… You have an extensive Steam library full of great multiplayer games to play! And when you finally get that Friday night free… no one is online or available to squad up and game on.
Well, what if I told you there were some sure-fire ways to get your friends of any age – but especially the adult crowd – online and ready to take on multiplayer adventures regularly? These tips below should help you accomplish just that!
Be the Scheduler!
If you find yourself unhappy with your gaming frequency among your friends, the first and most obvious thing you can do is become the group scheduler! Get comfortable with a calendar app like Google Calendar and be communicative with your friends a week or so in advance to plan multiplayer hangouts. This will require a large amount of initial effort but eventually can level out into “every other Friday” or “Tactical Sim Tuesday” or “Must Crush N00Bs Monday”… Anyway. Scheduling week to week may lead to long-term habits that are harder to break.
Additionally, reaching out to your friends will let them know you care about them, and doing so in advance will let them know you care about their time.
I know when I was planning a wedding earlier this year it was nice to be reached out to about gaming commitment, rather than have to juggle both. I was busy, and my friends wanted to see me – so we scheduled what we could when we could. Adult life is busy for everyone, and sometimes a gentle reminder is all we need.
Create Multiplayer Ga-mmitments
Combine “Game” and “Commitment.” You get Gammitments that are between you and a small group of friends! I suggest one or two others, maybe a third in some cases. These are games that you all PROMISE to play ONLY with each other. Cooperative games work best for this, especially ones with a story. I remember having this agreement with friends in Borderlands and Borderlands 2. We all made accounts on the same day, picked our class, and decided we would only play with each other.
This resulted in longer play sessions about once a week because they were new games we were excited about but didn’t always have 4 hours a night for. So inste3ad of chipping away at the story on weeknights, we would tackle huge swaths of plot in 6-hour binges…. then snack break….. then some more.
Adding fun punishments (that aren’t really punishing) to this method can make for fun memories. We were college students who all lived fairly close to one another, so anyone who made progress outside of the group had to buy the other 3 players beer the next time we went out. This would bring our in-game conversations to the real world, and actually got us outside more and seeing each other more than we might have.
Put Games on Pause?
If the above tips aren’t working out, maybe there has been too much of a focus on gaming lately? Engage your friends in their hobbies! Have a friend who loves woodworking? Go ask if you can make something together! Have a fitness-fiend friend? Go on a trail walk with them and touch base on life! Or just invite friends to drinks, food, or an arcade bar (best of all worlds)!
Reaching out IRL can yield real dividends in the digital world! I hope these tips help you party up and play on! If you’re looking to grow your online friendslist for gaming, we recommend you check out our discord!